11/29/11

Dating

It seems like having a boyfriend in high school is the norm/ the cool thing to do. I mean if you went to my high school for a day you would notice all the couples making out in the halls, and holding hands. Society is telling every teenager that you need a boyfriend, and we want that, we want someone to tell us they love us. We want that person to protect us. I mean God created attraction; we want to be with another person of the opposite sex. But society takes it a little farther and says that “love” is going a little farther with your boyfriend then you would have wanted. Your friends, you find, are having sex, and doing other things. Then you see on TV teens who are having sex and they make it seem like they are cool. Let’s face it, high school has a lot of pressure to have a boyfriend. 


Are you the girl that dreamed of having a boyfriend ever since you were little? Do you imagine him in your head saying how he would be the perfect guy, a gentleman, who treated you like a princess, and is drop dead gorgeous? I know I did. But now you are in high school, and never had a boyfriend. But maybe you have, and he turned out to be quite the opposite of that perfect guy you imagined.  He was a total jerk, and only dated you for what you would do with him.


But is that what love is? Is love making out with him, or doing other things to him? That can’t be all to what love is, yet we believe what are peers in high school and what society tells us.


Hey you, yeah you, that girl, that teenage girl that just wants a guy to love, and comfort her, you. Guess what? You don’t need a boyfriend right now. If you tell yourself all you want and need is a guy then you tend to lower your standards, believe me I have been there. Are you the type of girl that, if a guy tells you that he likes you, and you didn’t like him before, you start telling yourself you like him because he liked you first? I was that girl. All I wanted was a person who loved me for me. But what I didn’t know was, that wasn’t love. No, far from it. That guy I dated, he wasn’t after me because he liked me, he liked me because of what I could give him. Have you been down this road? What I have learned from this experience is that I can’t lower my standards for a guy just because I want a boyfriend.


Recently in my youth group we have been talking about dating and guys. They talked about how God created dating for marriage, not just to date any guy who says he likes you. This really got me thinking, if God tells me I should date for the guy I want to marry then what do I want my future husband to be like. So I made a list. I admit some of it is really superficial, but come on I am still a 15 year old girl! After I read this list, and had a vivid idea of who my perfect guy would be like, I realized how horrible the guys I have previously dated were. Most of them didn’t meet any of my standards.  Yet I dated them.  I wanted to feel loved. But it wasn’t love.


God has a perfect guy for you, someone who He hand-picked for you. What I am asking is that you don’t lower your standards. You were “perfectly and wonderfully made”. You’re beautiful. DO NOT go for a guy who doesn’t love you for you! Do not “awaken love”. Be patient and don’t go after the bad guys. If you are thinking it’s too hard, and believe me, I KNOW ITS HARD, all I want you to do is write your own list of the perfect guy. The next time a guy asks you out, or you like a guy, I want you to look back at your list and see if he matches up to that guy. He probably won’t. All you to know is that you are precious and a gem, you don’t need a bad guy, and you deserve the BEST! Just wait for him, don’t give your body up to any jerk that says “I loves you”.

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